There is no person in this world that is in a happy healthy loving relationship that needs stimulation on a routine bases from another person if they are in a happy healthy loving relationship. If you find you seek from another that you are not getting from your partner or you see they need it from you or another.... you better reevaluate your relationship with them and your partner. Don't get me wrong we all have "friends" that we enjoy doing things with or talking with. One should check themselves if it goes beyond that.
Clue: if you find you need to talk to somebody a lot more then your partner....you might want to ask yourself why.
Clue: if you find that somebody needs to talk to you a lot and they are in a relationship .... you might want to ask yourself why.
Now don't get me wrong. If there are cercomstances then don't be concerned, helping with their problem...setting up a party say or they are having hard time with something. But if something doesn't seem right, it probably isn't.
Trust me alot of times you are not aware of it because it seems innocent.
In my opinion... no person in a healthy loving relationship needs craves attention from others constantly unless they are NOT getting something from there partner. Think about it for a moment. And the light bulb will come on. RED FLAG.
How do we determine?
Ask yourself how much time do I spend talking to them. What is the conversation about, And if I was in there shoes....what would be my reaction if I found my partner or my friends partner, needed to talk or do things all the time with somebody else. And if im in a relationship am I hiding it? If they are in a relationship are they hiding it? If you answer yes.... hummmmm.
Now there are exceptions to the rules. And one has to evaluate the situation. This is Just food for thought.
NO PERSON in a happy loving relationship needs outside stimulation from another individual on a routine bases if they are TRULY in a happy loving relationship. I don't care what they tell you or you tell them.
Yes...im sure people will argue the point well I love talking to my friends and like to go out and do things with them on a ”ROUTINE” bases and not have my partner ALWAYS with. I never said ALWAYS.... but if you....ALWAYS seek elsewhere.... you might want to reevaluate your relationship. Like I said in my opinion.
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Friday, March 16, 2012
Sunday, June 5, 2011
A quote by: Bob Marley, and a comment from me.
You may not be her first, her last, or her only.
She loved before she may love again.
But if she loves you now, what else matters?
She's not perfect, you aren't either,
and the two of you may never be perfect together
but if she can make you laugh, cause you to think twice,
and admit to being human and making mistakes,
hold onto her and give her the most you can.
She may not be thinking about you
every second of the day, but she will give you a part of
her that she knows you can break her heart.
So don't hurt her, don't change her, don't analyze
and don't expect more than she can give.
Smile when she maked you happy,
let her know when she makes you mad,
and miss her when she's not there.
-Bob Marley
Very well put by Bob Marley.
It’s funny how people try to change the person they are with. Guys, girls didn’t you fall in love with the person that you are with? What happen? Yes people do fall out of love all the time. Was it one of those relationships you went into to change them into something that you want? Is that why you were or are in love with this person? Or were they not telling the truth being “true to themselves.” Or for that matter you were not being “true to yourself”? Love can make us blind.
A very good friend of mine told me once... "Nobody is perfect, we all have faults. It’s if you can live with those faults is when you move forward with that relationship." Ok it might not be an exact quote. I’ve said similar things to friends of mine myself also. For those that did find the one they love and have found that those faults they did find out is what makes the person they love who they are the just read on for possibly helping somebody you know.
Here it is in a nut shell.......
Why, do people stay in a relationship they hate, or claim to hate? Why do people talk shit about the one they are with? Sometimes take abuse, verbal, and physical, but still stay with that person. Is it because if you love them enough you will be able to fix them or change them into something that you really want? Or is it they don’t think they can do any better. TRUTH…. You can’t change somebody to fit you; you have to find somebody that fits you. I keep hearing the perfect "man" or "woman". Truth there isn’t any. But there is a perfect person for you. If you have found that person hold on tight and tell them you love them every day. For those that are still searching don’t look too hard. I have found the harder you look the harder it is to find. I for one have not given up but I’ve stopped trying so hard. If I find a great woman then it will because it was meant to be. Ya ya.. All you out there will laugh and say well you will be alone for a long time if you don’t look. Truth.... I don’t believe that. Don’t need a woman in my life just to have a woman. I need a woman to walk with me and enjoy the things I do. And walk the path to new adventures. The right woman for me will be the perfect woman for me. Were or who she is well only time will tell.
Once again to all you out there look for what you want and need in your life. Never give up on love but know that you can’t find a person and change them into something that you could love. Not every relationship is perfect but remember that they don’t have to be. They have to be things you can live with. If not don’t try to change them cause it will not work. Good Luck, never give up but don’t try so hard. Go out date find out what they have to offer. Look for flags. But for God's sake don't spend all your time trying to find faults with the person. Go out and enjoy yourself. IF it was meant to be it will be. If you go in expecting a relationship to fail, it will!! If you go in expecting to see red flags you will see them everywhere. Don’t put your heart all out there until you’re sure they are the one. Until then just enjoy the company. Some more good advice, if you’re not sure on somebody then date them until you’re sure. Just protect the heart. Never go all in until you are willing to take that chance that it could possibly hurt.
Everybody wants somebody in their life. But to have somebody just so you are not alone. Not a good Idea, because then it will never work. I hope everybody finds that “TRUE” love that they are looking for.
She loved before she may love again.
But if she loves you now, what else matters?
She's not perfect, you aren't either,
and the two of you may never be perfect together
but if she can make you laugh, cause you to think twice,
and admit to being human and making mistakes,
hold onto her and give her the most you can.
She may not be thinking about you
every second of the day, but she will give you a part of
her that she knows you can break her heart.
So don't hurt her, don't change her, don't analyze
and don't expect more than she can give.
Smile when she maked you happy,
let her know when she makes you mad,
and miss her when she's not there.
-Bob Marley
Very well put by Bob Marley.
It’s funny how people try to change the person they are with. Guys, girls didn’t you fall in love with the person that you are with? What happen? Yes people do fall out of love all the time. Was it one of those relationships you went into to change them into something that you want? Is that why you were or are in love with this person? Or were they not telling the truth being “true to themselves.” Or for that matter you were not being “true to yourself”? Love can make us blind.
A very good friend of mine told me once... "Nobody is perfect, we all have faults. It’s if you can live with those faults is when you move forward with that relationship." Ok it might not be an exact quote. I’ve said similar things to friends of mine myself also. For those that did find the one they love and have found that those faults they did find out is what makes the person they love who they are the just read on for possibly helping somebody you know.
Here it is in a nut shell.......
Why, do people stay in a relationship they hate, or claim to hate? Why do people talk shit about the one they are with? Sometimes take abuse, verbal, and physical, but still stay with that person. Is it because if you love them enough you will be able to fix them or change them into something that you really want? Or is it they don’t think they can do any better. TRUTH…. You can’t change somebody to fit you; you have to find somebody that fits you. I keep hearing the perfect "man" or "woman". Truth there isn’t any. But there is a perfect person for you. If you have found that person hold on tight and tell them you love them every day. For those that are still searching don’t look too hard. I have found the harder you look the harder it is to find. I for one have not given up but I’ve stopped trying so hard. If I find a great woman then it will because it was meant to be. Ya ya.. All you out there will laugh and say well you will be alone for a long time if you don’t look. Truth.... I don’t believe that. Don’t need a woman in my life just to have a woman. I need a woman to walk with me and enjoy the things I do. And walk the path to new adventures. The right woman for me will be the perfect woman for me. Were or who she is well only time will tell.
Once again to all you out there look for what you want and need in your life. Never give up on love but know that you can’t find a person and change them into something that you could love. Not every relationship is perfect but remember that they don’t have to be. They have to be things you can live with. If not don’t try to change them cause it will not work. Good Luck, never give up but don’t try so hard. Go out date find out what they have to offer. Look for flags. But for God's sake don't spend all your time trying to find faults with the person. Go out and enjoy yourself. IF it was meant to be it will be. If you go in expecting a relationship to fail, it will!! If you go in expecting to see red flags you will see them everywhere. Don’t put your heart all out there until you’re sure they are the one. Until then just enjoy the company. Some more good advice, if you’re not sure on somebody then date them until you’re sure. Just protect the heart. Never go all in until you are willing to take that chance that it could possibly hurt.
Everybody wants somebody in their life. But to have somebody just so you are not alone. Not a good Idea, because then it will never work. I hope everybody finds that “TRUE” love that they are looking for.
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