Something to think about....

There is no person in this world that is in a happy healthy loving relationship that needs stimulation on a routine bases from another person if they are in a happy healthy loving relationship. If you find you seek from another that you are not getting from your partner or you see they need it from you or another.... you better reevaluate your relationship with them and your partner. Don't get me wrong we all have "friends" that we enjoy doing things with or talking with. One should check themselves if it goes beyond that.
Clue: if you find you need to talk to somebody a lot more then your partner....you might want to ask yourself why.
Clue: if you find that somebody needs to talk to you a lot and they are in a relationship .... you might want to ask yourself why.

Now don't get me wrong. If there are cercomstances then don't be concerned, helping with their problem...setting up a party say or they are having hard time with something. But if something doesn't seem right, it probably isn't.
Trust me alot of times you are not aware of it because it seems innocent.
In my opinion... no person in a healthy loving relationship needs craves attention from others constantly unless they are NOT getting something from there partner. Think about it for a moment. And the light bulb will come on. RED FLAG.
How do we determine?
Ask yourself how much time do I spend talking to them. What is the conversation about, And if I was in there shoes....what would be my reaction if I found my partner or my friends partner, needed to talk or do things all the time with somebody else. And if im in a relationship am I hiding it? If they are in a relationship are they hiding it? If you answer yes.... hummmmm.
Now there are exceptions to the rules. And one has to evaluate the situation. This is Just food for thought.
NO PERSON in a happy loving relationship needs outside stimulation from another individual on a routine bases if they are TRULY in a happy loving relationship. I don't care what they tell you or you tell them.
Yes...im sure people will argue the point well I love talking to my friends and like to go out and do things with them on a ”ROUTINE” bases and not have my partner ALWAYS with. I never said ALWAYS.... but if you....ALWAYS seek elsewhere.... you might want to reevaluate your relationship. Like I said in my opinion.

Five good lessons. Again, Ive borrowed them.

Five Lessons About How To Treat People-- Author Unknown

1. First Important Lesson - "Know The Cleaning Lady"

During my second month of college, our professor gave us a pop quiz. I was a conscientious student and had breezed through the questions, until I read the last one: "What is the first name of the woman who cleans the school?"

Surely this was some kind of joke. I had seen the cleaning woman several times. She was tall, dark-haired and in her 50s, but how would I know her name? I handed in my paper, leaving the last question blank. Just before class ended, one student asked if the last question would count toward our quiz grade.

"Absolutely," said the professor. "In your careers, you will meet many people. All are significant. They deserve your attention and care, even if all you do is smile and say "hello."

I've never forgotten that lesson. I also learned her name was Dorothy.


2. Second Important Lesson - "Pickup In The Rain"

One night, at 11:30 p.m., an older African American woman was standing on the side of an Alabama highway trying to endure a lashing rainstorm. Her car had broken down and she desperately needed a ride. Soaking wet, she decided to flag down the next car.

A young white man stopped to help her, generally unheard of in those conflict-filled 1960s. The man took her to safety, helped her get assistance and put her into a taxicab.

She seemed to be in a big hurry, but wrote down his address and thanked him. Seven days went by and a knock came on the man's door. To his surprise, a giant console color TV was delivered to his home.

A special note was attached. It read: "Thank you so much for assisting me on the highway the other night. The rain drenched not only my clothes, but also my spirits. Then you came along. Because of you, I was able to make it to my dying husband's bedside just before he passed away. God bless you for helping me and unselfishly serving others."

Sincerely, Mrs. Nat King Cole.


3. Third Important Lesson - "Remember Those Who Serve"

In the days when an ice cream sundae cost much less, a 10 year-old boy entered a hotel coffee shop and sat at a table. A waitress put a glass of water in front of him. "How much is an ice cream sundae?" he asked. "50¢," replied the waitress.

The little boy pulled his hand out of his pocket and studied the coins in it.

"Well, how much is a plain dish of ice cream?" he inquired. By now more people were waiting for a table and the waitress was growing impatient. "35¢!" she brusquely replied.

The little boy again counted his coins. "I'll have the plain ice cream," he said. The waitress brought the ice cream, put the bill on the table and walked away. The boy finished the ice cream, paid the cashier and left.

When the waitress came back, she began to cry as she wiped down the table. There, placed neatly beside the empty dish, were two nickels and five pennies. You see, he couldn't have the sundae, because he had to have enough left to leave her a tip.


4. Fourth Important Lesson - "The Obstacles In Our Path"

In ancient times, a King had a boulder placed on a roadway. Then he hid himself and watched to see if anyone would remove the huge rock. Some of the king's wealthiest merchants and courtiers came by and simply walked around it. Many loudly blamed the King for not keeping the roads clear, but none did anything about getting the stone out of the way.

Then a peasant came along carrying a load of vegetables. Upon approaching the boulder, the peasant laid down his burden and tried to move the stone to the side of the road. After much pushing and straining, he finally succeeded. After the peasant picked up his load of vegetables, he noticed a purse lying in the road where the boulder had been. The purse contained many gold coins and a note from the King indicating that the gold was for the person who removed the boulder from the roadway. The peasant learned what many of us never understand - "Every obstacle presents an opportunity to improve our condition."


5. Fifth Important Lesson - "Giving When It Counts"

Many years ago, when I worked as a volunteer at a hospital, I got to know a little girl named Liz who was suffering from a rare and serious disease. Her only chance of recovery appeared to be a blood transfusion from her 5-year-old brother, who had miraculously survived the same disease and had developed the antibodies needed to combat the illness. The doctor explained the situation to her little brother, and asked the little boy if he would be willing to give his blood to his sister. I saw him hesitate for only a moment before taking a deep breath and saying, "Yes, I'll do it if it will save her."

As the transfusion progressed, he lay in bed next to his sister and smiled, as we all did, seeing the color returning to her cheeks. Then his face grew pale and his smile faded. He looked up at the doctor and asked with a trembling voice, "Will I start to die right away?".

Being young, the little boy had misunderstood the doctor; he thought he was going to have to give his sister all of his blood in order to save her.

A Path that must be walked

 A Path that must be walked


We all walk down our paths of life.  Finding those we encounter to ether encourage or discourage us in our life's struggle. Hoping to find the way.  To find what we all our looking for.  That true Happiness that "Self truth".   The thing that defines us for who we are and what we want to do with our life.  A lot of people you encounter discourage you and push you off your "TRUE" path the path that you have always meant to follow.  And its OK cause  to me it helps define you to teach you to show you how to deal with the everyday struggles to make you a better person.  THAT is a strong person one who Knows that they must move forward. One who says I will walk with you my enemy because it is YOU who needs me to help you along your journey. I don't need you. But I will help you anyways for you cant discourage me from my path.  Walk with me my enemy...and by the way meet my friends who help me who encourage me who walk along side of me also.  You can temp me bribe me shove me.  You can try to hold me back against my will.  But in the end I will win.  Yes you may win a Battle or two but you will not win the war.
And walk with me my friends.  Even if its only for  a little while. Let me show you the path I walk. Show my yours.  Lets walk hand and hand and help each other were we can. Don't fear the ruts in the road. Don't be scared of the forks that will come.  There may be times we will need  to walk a different one for awhile. Don't let those enemies discourage you I'm never to far away.